Some time back, when a leading media chief suavely entered in discourse on many matters of national importance with an enigmatic leader of stature, it was followed with great interest on prime time. However, apart from the expected political umbrage yet correctness of the talks, one thing looked common between the two celebrities – both appeared a bit like the helpless parents of today !
Here was the visibly relaxed Soniaji stating candidly ‘I try not to volunteer advice to them, do you ?’ to which media baron, Aroon Purie seemed to lament ‘my children don’t listen to me’ (partly in jest, maybe) while the audience did LOL ! The irony remains, be it leaders in the fields of politics, media, business, sports etc or the struggling service class, all need to brush up on communication skills when it comes to their own grown up children. (the issue of dealing with teenage kids is beyond the realm of this writer ! )
Professionals teaching different techniques and impact of good speaking styles, often fail miserably at home resulting in indefinite family deadlocks ! What are parents, otherwise intelligent beings of substance (outside home), not doing right and mostly getting the wrong end of the stick ?
For one, it’s probably that they’re talking to them as their closest relatives, always knowing what’s best and wishing them to be like them. Keeping the relationship aside, talking one to one like adults, starting as equals may work. Add to this, a lot of quality listening and unlearning your past glory about what sacrifices you made and how wonderfully you brought them up. Like all others, grown-ups need backing from parents for the decisions they’ve made and appreciation for efforts but without major interventions. The unsaid message remains – spare the advice, we’ll ask for it if needed !
One father/parent (and celebrity ) who measures up to these high standards is the great Prakash Padukone, ex-badminton champion and now coach. His renowned daughter and international actress, Deepika Padukone, recently called him ‘The Best Dad’, for his humility and many qualities ! At least let’s try and become brighter, meaning more ‘Prakash’ all around !
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